This may be more of a random musing. Visiting my grandmother and family over the holidays has me reminiscent. Plus its the first of the year, and everyone’s gushing over #goals and habits to “let go”, I began to think about how I was schooled on decision making.
I used to loathe hearing lectures from my grandmother when we did something wrong. She didn’t reach for the paddle. She gave lessons. She always started by saying, “Choices. No one can make you do anything. You are in control of your emotions, and it begins with how you choose to react.” And she always pointed her finger up, never in your face.
As much as I couldn’t stand sitting to hear it, her mantra lives in me today.
Her words I now share with my children. If my daughter bursts into angry tears when she can’t find a toy, I ask her to stop, take a deep breath, and sit still a minute to think about where it could have been last. The lesson there that tears block your eyes from being able to see where the toy could be. When she stops to use her mind muscle, it’s strength can help her find it.
Once we understand that making a sound decision begins with the emotion, our follow on will have more definitive resolve. We help ourselves and our family reduce a bit of the stress we cause ourselves.
How does this relate to decision making in the new year? More ways than I will count.
It is so easy to resolve to exercise, eat better, make self care a priority, etc, etc. I am going to make an intentional play to wake up each day deciding to take ownership of my emotions and choose to do one thing each day to make me and my family better.
Happy New Year!